‘I’m a 70-year-old widow but I won’t give up on finding love again’

Dear Coleen

I turned 70 earlier this year and I’m on my own after I was widowed four years ago.

It was a happy marriage and I feel lucky I got to share those years with my husband. However, I would love to meet another man to share the rest of my life with.

I have been out for lunch and dinner a few times with men I know locally, but there was no spark or chemistry, so all I found was friendship.

I’m not lonely in that I have grown-up children and grandkids, and lots of good friends who I see a lot of. But I want something more – is that silly at my age? I want to love again and feel loved.

I’m a very young 70 (my friends say I look at least 10 years younger), I’m fit and healthy, and I’m not ready to give up on romance.

Do you think I’m hoping for too much at 70 and, if not, do you have any ideas on how I can make it happen before another few years slide away?

Coleen says

No, I don’t think you’re silly or too old at all. One of the things I’ve learnt from writing this column over the years is that plenty of people do meet partners later in life – well into their 60s, 70s and beyond.

You sound like someone with a really fantastic life – great friends, a loving family and good health, which are priceless.

So it’s important to celebrate all those things. As far as meeting someone special goes, that would be wonderful, but don’t think of it as the be all and end all.

If it doesn’t happen, you’ll still have a wonderful, rich life and fulfilling relationships.

Perhaps if you do take the pressure off yourself to meet someone, it’ll happen, probably when you least expect it to.

But there are things you can do to increase your chances of bumping into your Mr Right – clubs and groups that bring you into contact with like-minded people, for example.

It could be fun activities like dancing or hiking, and I know lots of people who’ve found friendship and new interests through the University of The Third Age (visit u3a.org.uk) for semi-retired and retired people.

That might be a good place to start. Good luck!

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